Sunday, July 3, 2022

Day 30/30 - *Hashem Will Save Us Speedily, and Shine His Light on All!*

 Moshiach Matters 30/30 - *Hashem Will Save Us Speedily, and Shine His Light on All!*

_In honor of the Bris Milah of our dear son, Yehoshua Tzvi Meir Wilansky_


Two minutes before our baby’s bris began, my husband came over to ask me which name we were giving the baby? 

I still didn’t feel sure of what to answer, but this time there was no more option to wait, and so I said it - “All three!”


Yehoshua Tzvi Meir sounds like a pretty big name for a tiny little baby to carry, and it’s quite a big name to call him by, countless times a day… 


But once I heard his name announced out loud, “Yehoshua Tzvi Meir... zeh hakatan gadol yihiye...” - I realised that’s it! This is really his name, forever. 

And while he is still so “small” now, bezH he will grow up to be truly “big”, and live up to all three of his great names. 🙏


Today I want to share the “ruach hakodesh” of how we got to this name, and also what these names mean to me - how each of them is so connected to Geulah! 


(Sorry it’s a bit long, but it’s a long name😉)


***


Ever since our Zaidy Yehoshua Wilansky A”H passed away 3 years ago, we knew that we wanted to name our next baby boy Yehoshua bezH. 


Zaidy Yehoshua had a heart of gold. He was so kind, caring, compassionate, thoughtful, humble, sincere, patient, positive, and grateful. He loved his family so deeply, and he also had a great sense of humor. My husband and I were both very close to him, and we felt it would be a great zechus for us to have a child named after him!


(The kids guessed it on their own too, and have already been walking around for the past few months saying that, “If it’s a boy, he will be Yehoshua,” and sometimes without the “if” because they were somehow so sure it would be a boy.)


Right around my due date, I wrote in to the Rebbe about something, and opened up to a letter that was addressed to someone named Yehoshua, and the letter was a response to a Mazel tov, and was about naming a child at the first opportunity!

So if I had any doubts at all, now I knew 100% that this was the right name for our baby bezH. 


But the most amazing part was that while I thought our baby was born around 10 days “late”, when I looked at the chitas of the day of his bris, I could see openly that he was born exactly on time! 


The parsha of his bris is about Yehoshua receiving his name, and the chumash of the day of his bris is about how Yehoshua was saved from the sin of the meraglim, thanks to his deep hiskashrus with Moshe Rabbeinu, and how he returned from Eretz Yisroel saying that, “The land is very very good.” 


There couldn’t have been a more clear and open sign that specifically this baby is connected to Yehoshua! 


***

As we stayed up late for the vacht nacht on the night before the bris, my husband once again mentioned the idea of adding the name “Tzvi Meir” for his elter Zeidy, Tzvi Meir Steinmetz A”H. 


Zeidy Tzvi Meir was a great talmid chochom with a sharp mind and a great love for learning. From the first time he met the Rebbe, he was taken away with awe by the brilliance, breadth, and depth of the Rebbe’s teachings, and immediately became a chossid. He was also an extremely talented Torah poet, and a big baal tzedakah. 


My husband felt very connected to him, especially in his last years, and we always knew that we wanted to name one of our sons after him. We were just hoping for the opportunity and waiting for the right time…


But at first, the idea didn’t sound realistic at all.

We thought it didn’t make any sense to combine both names together, since they are each such great and beautiful names in their own right, and we thought that maybe combining them would take away from the focus on each one... 

especially since it adds up to 3, and they also aren’t names that we are used to hearing together…


We thought it’s better to just hope that Hashem would bless us with another opportunity to give this name…


But a short while later, my husband was suddenly inspired to look up what happened in Lubavitch on the day of our son’s bris, 21 Sivan… 


He was really surprised to see that just about the only thing that came up was that 21 Sivan 5776 was the yahrzeit of my mother’s older brother, my dear Uncle Meir A”H!


When my husband told me this the next morning, I was so moved!!! 


Uncle Meir has such a special place in my heart! 

And he is one of my greatest role models of a true yirei shamayim and of a true chossid of the Rebbe, who deeply felt the Rebbe’s passion, and who did everything in his power to bring Moshiach! 


I hadn’t realised that it was his yartzeit that day! 

To me, it was such a clear sign that today was in fact the day to give our son the name Tzvi Meir as well; That this baby is truly connected to all three of these great names! 


But I’m naturally indecisive, and so I still felt I needed more confirmation that 3 names is not “too much”... and that combining them will only add, and not take away anything, from each one.


As I read the hayom yom, I noticed that it had the number 3 - it mentioned the 3 intellectual attributes that are explained in the 3rd perek of Tanya…

And I also noticed some hint in the day’s Tanya, but nothing that seemed clear enough.


I was feeling really pressured and time was running out… and so my thoughts turned to the Rebbe, asking for clarity asap! 


And then suddenly, my Shviger forwarded the English Chitas summary of the day to me, with a comment, “special hayom yom today”.


I looked at it, but the first thing that hit my eyes was the Tanya, because it was at the end of the message, (before pressing “read more”)…


And it said, 


“So far we learned about *three attributes of G-d, each represented by another name of Hashem*. 


- Havaya is Chesed -Mercy

- Elokim is Gevura - Discipline 

- Ad-nay is Malchus -Sovereignty


*When two names join forces*, in this case, the name Ad-nay is together with the name Havaya, the time and space of the world is connected with what’s higher than time and space….”


I was amazed! That was enough “Ruach Hakodesh” for me!!!


If Hashem has 3(+) names, our baby can too! 


And the Tanya was speaking about the advantage of combining 2 different names! How combining them is not just adding more quantity, but it adds up to a whole new quality, that is higher than each one can ever accomplish on their own!


I realised that Zaidy Yehoshua a”h, Zeidy Tzvi Meir a”h, and Uncle Meir a”h, each have such different special qualities that stand out about them, and so when we combine all 3 together, they complement each other in the most beautiful and perfect way! 


And they also compliment each other in their meanings, in connection with Geulah…


*Yehoshua* means that Hashem will save us - 

That we don’t hope for, or rely on, any other form of salvation from the world’s problems, other than from HaShem alone, and other than through the true and complete Geulah.


But that is not enough! 


Of course we are guaranteed that Hashem will eventually send Moshiach, our only question is WHEN?! Ad mosai?! 


The purpose of all our efforts is not to bring Moshiach, who will come anyway, but to bring Moshiach _faster_… 


And that’s why we need to add the name *Tzvi* - 


That Hashem should not only send our salvation, but He should send it right NOW, speedily, as quickly as a deer!


And then *Meir* - 

Hashem will quickly remove the shield that is concealing His light, and instead shine His light openly throughout the entire universe…

because that is the only difference between Golus and Geulah - seeing light instead of darkness. 


***


I also realised that what they all share in common is a powerful inspiration for our deep desire for Geulah! 


*Yehoshua*


In the daily Rebbe video that I saw right as I went into labor, the Rebbe spoke about the meaning of the name Yehoshua; 

That the reason Moshe Rabbeinu added a Yud to his name Hoshea, was to say that HaShem is the one who will save him from the undesirable ideas of the meraglim…

And that through him, Hashem will actually save all the Yidden, since Yehoshua was the first one who led the Yidden, as a nation, into Eretz Yisroel.


What caused Yehoshua to be saved was his deep desire to enter Eretz Yisroel! He was not afraid of the big change. He was not afraid of leaving the material and spiritual comforts of the midbar behind. And because he and Kalev were the only ones who *wanted* to go up, they were the only ones who actually merited to go up in their lifetimes...


The greatest lesson for us from Yehoshua is not to be afraid of the Geulah, and not to be afraid of leaving the Golus behind! Because *in the zechus of our desire, we will all merit to once again enter the Land!*


*Tzvi Meir* 


This past 28 Nissan, my daughter was inspired to start sharing Moshiach thoughts with her class every morning in school. And so one morning, about a month before our baby was born, I was searching on Chabad.org for a Moshiach story for her to share.


I found just one new story there, and it was so beautiful! 


It went like this. 


"Tell us a story, Grandpa!"

Begged the children.

"About whom shall I tell you tonight?"

Asked the grandfather.

"Tell us a story about a prince,"

They all pleaded.

So the grandfather told:


Once upon a time

Many, many years ago

A mighty king had an only son

Whom he loved very much.

But one day the prince did a very silly thing

And rebelled against his father

So the king banished his son from his palace

And handed him over

To a cruel slave-people

Who dwelled in the depths of a valley

In one of the countries of his kingdom

And so said the king to them:

"See, I have placed my son

In your hands to enslave him

To do with him whatever you please

Until the day that I shall remember him

To return him from his exile.

And this shall be the sign to you:

A burning torch

I shall place in my window

Overlooking your valley

Where it shall constantly burn

And when the day comes that my son

Lifts up his soul

In regret and yearning

Toward my palace on the hilltop

And attaches an imploring look

To the glow in my window --

On that day

The days of his enslavement shall come to an end

And he shall be set free."


The prince was put in chains

And taken down to the valley

To the slave quarters

And his enslavers said

To each other:

"Let us outwit

The prince

Lest he lift his eyes

And gaze upon

The light of the palace

And be redeemed."

So they oppressed him with their labors

And made bitter his life --

Until the profusion of toil

And shortness of spirit

Made him forget his father's house

And the sign of his redemption.


The enslavers of the prince

Further plotted

They contrived to build

High walls

And to plant

A thick forest

To interpose between the prince

And the window of his father's palace

They placed upon him taskmasters

And he built fortified walls

And he planted a thicket of trees

Around the vale of his captivity

And these are the walls he built:

A wall of distress

A wall of fear

A wall of hate

A wall of sorrow

A wall of despair.

And these are the trees he planted:

A tree of rapacity

A tree of forgetfulness

A tree of jealousy

A tree of strife.


But no one knew

That if the captive prince

Would only raise

One yearning look

The walls would fall away

The forest would disappear

And the light of his redemption

Would be glowingly revealed.

But the toil of his heart

Bowed the soul of the prince

To the dust

And his eyes remained glued to the ground...


The grandfather tells his story

And the grandchildren fall asleep

Only black-eyed Shoshana

Is listening still

With a wakeful heart

And an attentive soul.

She implores her grandfather:

"When will the prince

Muster the strength

And lift up his gaze

Toward his ray of redemption?"

And the grandfather replies:

"Every day

I awake and hope

That this shall be the day

When in the darkness

Of the prince's heart

Ignites a spark

Of yearning memory

For the glow of his freedom..."


By the time I reached the end of the poem, I was touched to tears.

And then I noticed the last line on the bottom, 


_Dedicated to the author's first yahrtzeit, Elul 12, 5766 (September 5, 2006)_


_By Zvi Yair_


My husband’s Zeidy!


My daughter was so proud to hear that this poem was written by her own great great grandfather! (Tzvi Yair was his pen name.)


She shared it with her class that day in Hebrew, and I had it translated and designed in Russian too, and shared it at the opening of our Moshiach event a few weeks later.


Once again, the message that I learned from Zeidy Tzvi Meir, was that *the Geulah will come in the merit of our desire*! That all Hashem is waiting for now, is to see that we truly yearn to return to Him! 


*Meir* 


For over a decade, Uncle Meir would share a Moshiach thought in 770 right after Shacharis, every single day. He would carefully choose timely excerpts from the Rebbe’s sichos, and share them in the Rebbe’s words. But he did it with such a strong passion and emotion that showed how much he felt these words by himself too, and meant them with every fiber of his being. 


It wasn’t just one of the many moments of his day... 

It was deeply connected to his essence. 

He literally breathed and lived for this shlichus, and he continued to do it with Mesiras nefesh, even when he was physically very very weak, until his very last days…


And his purpose in sharing these Moshiach thoughts was not to give over information, but to give over a desire!


I once heard him farbreng about the sicha of 28 Nissan, where the Rebbe said that if we truly wanted Moshiach with an “emes”, then Moshiach would have already been here long ago.


He explained that when the Rebbe came out a week later in the sicha of Tazria/Metzorah, saying that the “direct path” to bring Moshiach is through learning about Moshiach and Geulah, he wasn’t saying something different than he said on 28 Nissan.


Instead, the Rebbe was telling us that since Moshiach’s coming depends on our desire for him, and we can’t want something that we know nothing about, the direct path to awaken our desire for Geulah is through learning about it…


And I have no doubt that when the desire for Moshiach will burn in more of our hearts, the way it did in Uncle Meir’s heart, Moshiach will come immediately!


May He be revealed speedily, in the blink of an eye-

“As swift as a deer”!!


Day 29/30 - Overdue

Overdue 


First I wasn’t ready 

Felt scared at the thought 

I’m not ready 


Then started packing my suitcase

Started reading 

Started practicing breathing 

Starting focusing 


It’s not fun to be overdue 

Planning for nothing 

Made someone sleep over all 3 days for nothing 

No guests for nothing 

Packed candles etc for nothing 

Almost had Goy sleep over for 3 days so I can get out of house 


Stomach ache 

Nope it wasn’t labor 


Ppl see me - you’re still here?

Feel like I’m disappointing ppl 


Sleeping to have strength 

Ready for labour 

Then tired again 



Slowly unpacking the suitcase 


Ready 

Husband davened early for nothing till 6am

Did everything early 

Always need to be on call

Can’t make any plans 

All plans are plan b 

Living minute by minute 


Need to be ready to welcome baby 

But then I’m ready 

Baby is ready 

But HaShem is not ready 


HaShem knows the right time 


Kids are waiting impatiently 

I’m disappointing them 

They can’t wait for me to have the baby already 

They come home from shul 

The baby is still inside

Do you feel anything 

When will the door open 


Feel signs think maybe it’s starting 

Nope 

It’s not it

Each morning wake up

Realised another night passed and nothing happened 

I hope I won’t need to get induced 


I’m not scared anymore 

I want to meet my baby already 

I’m ready 


I start to get busy with other things 

But every day fact is I’m closer 

Baby is still kicking 

Still coming 

Baby will come 

Matter of time 


We are overdue 

Once you’re overdue 

Hyper focused on birth 

Nothing to do about it 

We are now way over due 

Still need to be ready every day 


What’s holding back 

Why isn’t baby coming already 


HaShem wants to tell me something 


Everyone is waiting 

Not just me 


Make challah early 

Teach kallah crash course in 1 day, not next week 

Then teach her next day 


Story of father who was upset son wasted money cuz paid 3 years in advance 

What to make of it 


Maybe I miscalculated my due date 


Is this a good way to live 

On edge 

How long can we live like this 


I’m not so ready 


Thinking what is baby waiting for?

Continue being wife mother Shlucha


First time no sleeping guests and meal guests 


Guests checking in with me 


I had to tell ppl this time


Ppl asking to come for Shabbos 

Calling and texting 


Contrast to corona baby 


Started feeling depressed

Worried 

Will I ever go into labor naturally 

Is my baby safe 

Maybe I miscalculated

Ppl asked when I due I better answer I don’t know 

I really don’t know 


Ok I’ll make an appointment 

Took 2 more kallahs 


Start to expect it less

Start to make more plans 


Don’t want to feel foolish 


I answer I’m waiting - 

For baby and for moshiach 

Kids expecting less 

Accepted the fact that we don’t know when 


How long can we live on edge 


I didn’t order lavender cus thought it would come too late 


Difference - 

Is that birth I trust HaShem knows best time 

Listening to shaar habitachon 

And Geulah - HaShem wants us to demand it and speed it up 


Now I start hoping I will go into labour 

I’m not scared of labour anymore 

I’m scared of not going into labour 

Totally in Hashem’s hands 

Birth is such a Miracle

Take for granted that door begins to open when baby is ready 

It’s a huge miracle from HaShem 


Tracht gut vet zein gut- think good 

Relax 

I’m in hashems hands

There is no rush 

He knows when is the perfect שעה טובה for this baby

Only He knows 


Miri came to check if I had the baby

The next day she already didn’t check 

Klein - ah you still didn’t have the baby?


I wish we could have an ultrasound of moshiach 

Feel the movements 

Know what’s going on 

תמים תהיה עם ה אלוקיך 

No ultrasound no gps 


If baby is distress than let him out 

Not safe to wait indefinitely 

Worst case c section